A lesson from our daughter

Me, my wife, and our baby were in the living room when our baby took one of her shoes from near the door and approached us back. What another mess would she make, I thought, well, my wife would felt the same too. 🙂 It surprised both of us when she suddenly grabbed tissues from the low desk and cleaned her shoe.

Yesterday morning. Our daughter woke up and started coughing. It continued until she let the slime out of her mouth into the floor. I took her to the toilet in case she would retch more. Our baby took the rolling tissues beside our toilet seat, walked outside to wipe her phlegm on the floor.

That moment amazed me like no other.

Aleia is not even two and doesn’t understand responsibility. And she knew I was there to help her, but she did it anyway. She saw a problem and fixed it.

By fixing a problem arises in our vision, better problems will emerge, thus shaping you into a better person.

When we don’t act on the problem we see, we miss the opportunities to improve.

If you see a tissue on the floor and it bothers you, but you don’t do anything about it, your problems stay the same, even worse, the more you ignore it, it won’t be a problem anymore. You will have lower and worse problems than the ones you ignored. You are going backward.

See a problem. Fix it. See a problem. Fix it.

Thanks, baby, another lesson for me.

Your biggest contribution

There is a part of God, the perfect one, in each of our soul.

Developing that part is what matter the most to me. It means improving myself towards perfection. Sounds too egocentric. However, my best self is the maximum contribution I can give to my family, organization, and the world.

If “I” change, the world will change. Thus, the world can be changed only by me, and no one else will change it for me. When a person improves, a small part of society also improves.


Declare your faith first

The first pillar of Islam is “Shahada” which means a declaration of faith or bearing witness to the faith.

Bearing witness is to show that something exists or is true.

This should be the first step in whatever we want to achieve.

Perhaps it is aligned with the famous Napoleon Hill’s quote: “Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.”

But how on earth we can achieve anything by only believing?

If you declare your faith or your dream, you eliminate unnecessary things. It gives you a target and shows you the path to your dreams. In the journey, failures will show you the way by giving you the wrong directions. Nothing is wasted.

Declare your destination definitively, believe it will exist. Keep it on your head at all time. Watch how eventually you will see the clear path to your dreams.

Respond with kindness, why?

You probably have heard this million times: You should not repay evil with evil. You should do kindness even to those who wronged you.

Our parents, teachers and religions taught us this.

But exactly why?

This excerpt from Tolstoy’s A Calendar of Wisdom made sense:

When people wanted to kill a bear in the ancient times, they hung a heavy log over a bowl of honey. The bear would push the log away in order to eat the honey. The log would swing back and hit the bear. The bear would become irritated and push the log even harder, and it would return and hit him harder in return. This would continue until the log killed the bear. People behave in the same way when they return evil for the evil they receive from other people. Can’t people be wiser than bears?


The most powerful outcomes are delayed

The most powerful outcomes are delayed.

The things you do now, won’t make differences now. But it does not go to waste either.

It’s like “I’ve been running every day for a month, so why can’t I see any changes in my body?”

James Clear calls it the Plateau of Latent PotentialUsually, that’s the reason why people quit. If only they could endure a bit longer.

A conversation between a master and his disciple from Anthony De Mello’s One Minute Wisdom:

Disciple: “Is there anything I can do to make myself Enlightened?”

Master: “As little as you can do to make the sun rise in the morning.”

Disciple: “Then of what use are the spiritual exercises, you prescribe?”

Master: “To make sure you are not asleep when the sun begins to rise.”

Prepare yourself — small habit matters. These small actions will accumulate and compound. It’s how you make the big jump. Be patient.

Outsiders will call it an overnight success.

Me too. I’m still this fucking weak person who choose the path with least resistance. I want comfort. But comfort won’t do me any good.

Dream big then struggle. Don’t seek happiness, comfort, joy, or other positive shits because you won’t get it.

I’m not there yet. But, I’m here for the fight.



Thanks from your future

Demand the best of yourself.

We like to do bad things for whatever stupid reasons.

Control your self and channel your shadow.

Your shadow is the repressed side of you.

You won’t get any instant rewards. But that’s how you get mature and grow.

Your future self is going to thank you for something you did today, for a habit you formed, a penny you saved, a seed you planted.